Eilinį kartą esu sužavėtas „The Playboy Advisor“ skiltimi birželio mėnesio žurnale. Juk iš tiesų ( šį kartą užgniaužiu savo norą moralizuoti apie taip gyvenančiųjų vertybes) jeigu priimtume kaip duotybę naujas seksualinio gyvenimo formas, tai kaip turėtų būti sunku tokiai visuomenės mažumai formuoti savo kultūrą, socialines taisykles – juk tai mikro-grupė naujoje visuomenėje, ji turi labai mažai galimybių formuoti ir laikytis visiems (sąlyginai) priimtinų taisyklių. Tada iš tiesų kyla pavojus marginalizuotis ir radikalizuotis.
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My wife and I have been experimenting with a soft swinging, which means we swap with other couples but engage only in manual or oral sex. The first time I came with another woman, I assumed she might not want me to finish in her mouth, so I alerted her by tapping her shoulder. But my wife says the guy she was with just let go with no warning. What is the proper etiquette for notifying a woman who’s giving you head that you’re ready to come? – M.A., Dayton, Ohio
The problem with tapping her shoulder is that she has to know tapping her shoulder means you’re about to climax. That’s why saying “I’m coming” is the best method (we know it in several languages). However, the ultimate blow job never involves a signal, because it’s distracting for a guy at the height of ecstasy to refocus his brain for a moment to “warn” his partner. Ejaculating is always more fun when you can fire at will.
